Boyfriend V.S. Family

Dear Moira,
I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. My family loved him up until about two months ago. We had gotten into a huge fight and broke up for a few weeks. During that time he said things to my family and about my family that really made them upset. I also said very awful things. We recently made up and now we are trying to put those horrible few weeks behind us except my parents want nothing to do with him. They don't want me seeing him and they don't even want him at my house or in my car. It's so hard seeing them hate each other and it's really having a negative effect on my life. I don't want to be torn between them, but I don't want him to think that I don't care about him. I also don't want my family to hate me. Please help.


Well, that's a very tough situation. Families always have your best interest at heart, and maybe they just don't see the sweet and caring side of him that you may see. Especially after that huge blowout that you two had. Unfortunately some parents can be very strict and they can't be persuaded into a different state of mind. When they're upset about something, they stay upset. I have a few tricks or tips that you might want to try before you take the next step. I would try getting your family, and your boyfriend to agree to a dinner. This may take some convincing with your boyfriend, but if your family can see that it's very important to you, they should agree. At this dinner lay everything out on the line. Ask your boyfriend to sincerely apologize for what he said and did. Make sure he really is sorry before having him apologize, because if it's not sincere, your parents will be able to tell. If they accept his apology, then you can work on whether or not they will allow him at your house, or allow you to go places with him. If they don't accept his apology, don't get angry with them. Be mature and try to reason with them once more. Although they don't accept his apology, they should have some respect for the steps that he took to apologize. I hope everything works out well.
♥Moira